Weekly Top Five: Ways to Celebrate All Your Loved Ones
Valentine’s Day is traditionally thought of as a romantic holiday, a time to celebrate your boo and all the love (and lust!) he or she evokes in you. And I think that’s lovely and all, but in today’s divisive times, I have chosen to let Valentine’s Day represent love. Whether it’s love for my mama, my hubby, or myself, there can never be enough love spread around!
So for today’s WTF, I’m offering up five ways to celebrate love with those you love.
Your OG’s. The people who brought you into this world. The people who loved you when you were (and still sometimes are) completely unlovable. Send them a card. Give them a call. If they live close, invite them over for dinner. Parents don’t need much, they just like to be remembered. Surely you can do that, right?
My girl Hayley had some great ideas earlier this week, all of which I fully support. Sometimes Valentine’s Day with a partner can feel cheesy if you’ve been together a long time, so let me offer up my sweet valentine idea for that person you’ve got a long past with. Buy a Jenga game, and on each block write something special pertaining to the relationship. It could be the date of your first date, or the place you honeymooned, or an inside joke or phrase only you would know. I did this for my husband and it was surprisingly easy (and fun!) to fill up all 54 blocks. Best of all, he really liked it.
Besties really get overlooked. They deserve a holiday more than anyone! The one who talks when you want to talk, is quiet when you want to be quiet, and is honest with you when you need to change your outfit or your life, besties are often underappreciated, and, similar to parents, they don't need much. If they live close, see if they want to go on a “date.” I’ve been eyeing the new Candle Bar trend, or there is always the tried and true mani-pedi experience. The oil bar at Lemon Laine would be another fun way to spend time together beyond the standard eating and drinking activities. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!) If your bestie lives out of town, send him or her a card. They will love that too; everyone loves some good old-fashioned snail mail!
There are so many cute ideas around Valentine’s Day for kids, but let’s be honest – I don’t have the patience to sit down with my child and make 18 personalized valentine’s for the kids in her class. So I save my time and buy boxed ones (she chose The Incredibles themed cards, although I always call them The Avengers because I love when she says, “Mooooooom,” like she is 17 instead of 5). I decided I would rather spend my time on both her and her brother by telling them how much I love them. I started on February 1st, and every night after they go to sleep I add a heart to their door with a reason why I love them. By February 14th they will each have 14 hearts on their door with reminders of why their momma thinks they are pretty great.
Sometimes I think this one is a challenge to recognize and prioritize but it can be hard to give to others if your own tank is empty. We all need different things to recharge — maybe it’s time with friends, a nap, a massage— but whatever it is, make it a priority. One of my favorite things that I don’t get to do as often as I would like is to curl up with a good book and get lost in another world for as many hours as possible. The quiet time and immersion into an alternate reality help me to feel refreshed and nourished.